Published in 2021
3 hours and 34 minutes
Laura Hiddinga is a journalist and writes for LotteLust, an online magazine for womxn who want to learn about sexuality, have fun, and fantasize. She lives in Amsterdam, in the Netherlands—a country widely regarded as boasting the most progressive sex education and sexual values in the world.
What is this book about?
It’s time to address the “orgasm gap” According to some studies, only about 60% of straight women are reaching climax during sex compared to 95% of men. For many women who have sex, the unfortunate truth is that climaxing is not always (usually isn’t) guaranteed. This despite the fact that, as Miranda puts it in Sex and the City, “It’s the clitoris, not the Sphinx.”
Are You Coming? is here to address this gap–and to educate anyone with a vagina (whether straight or queer) who’s been wondering how to get the most out of it. It includes everything there is to know in order to achieve orgasm: vaginal, clitoral–but also anal, oral, and more. In just nine short chapters, told with boldness and wit, it provides the basics–a guide to vaginal anatomy; how to talk about sex with your partner; different positions and toys to try–and is sprinkled with “quickie” tips, quotes from iconic celebrities and TV shows, line drawings, and more to break it down even faster for those in need of the quick and dirty version to good sex . . . so to speak.
Many have (wrongly and sexist-ly) argued that the art of female orgasm is elusive, but in just 192 pages Are You Coming? shows that not only is it not–it’s easy: All you need is the desire to have a good time, this book, and maybe a toy or partner or two. Because sex is fun! Or at least it should be. Are you coming?
